Tranquility by Tuesday: 9 Ways to Calm the Chaos and Make Time for What Matters

Description: Tranquility by Tuesday by Laura Vanderkam "An indispensable manual...Tranquility by Tuesday offers plenty of inspiration for a more serene life, and down-to-earth and evidence-backed advice for actually making it happen."--Oliver Burkeman, New York Times bestselling author of Four Thousand WeeksFor anyone whos sick of letting to-do lists dictate their time, Laura Vanderkam, the bestselling author of What the Most Successful People Do Before Breakfast, shares nine strategies for reclaiming your hours"An indispensable manual...Tranquility by Tuesday offers plenty of inspiration for a more serene life, and down-to-earth and evidence-backed advice for actually making it happen."--Oliver Burkeman, New York Times bestselling author of Four Thousand WeeksFor anyone whos sick of letting to-do lists dictate their time, Laura Vanderkam, the bestselling author of What the Most Successful People Do Before Breakfast, shares nine strategies for reclaiming your hoursDo you find yourself hoping that someday, life will be less hectic? One day, you say, youll finally have time for the activities that you love - writing that book, completing that triathlon, traveling with friends. But if the COVID-19 pandemic has taught us anything, its that life is unpredictable. If were not careful, dull, unfulfilling tasks can quickly occupy our precious hours, derail our best-laid plans, and make life feel like a slog.In Tranquility by Tuesday, Laura Vanderkam explains that if you want something to happen, you need to design your life to make it happen. Work crises, childcare emergencies, and home repairs are inevitable, and the mundane tasks of life - cooking, cleaning, laundry - arent going anywhere. To make time for what matters, you need a resilient schedule, not a perfect schedule. Based on a time diary study of over 150 people, Vanderkam shares nine strategies for building opportunities for joy, nourishment, and fulfillment into your week, such as-Three times a week is a habitOne big adventure, one little adventureEffortful before effortlessThis is more than a time management book about "how to do it all." Its a look at how real people changed their lives using Vanderkams nine rules, and how you can do the same. Its about intentionally living the life that you want to live, and becoming an autonomous steward of lifes possibilities. FORMAT Hardcover LANGUAGE English CONDITION Brand New Author Biography Laura Vanderkam is the author of several time management and productivity books, including The New Corner Office, Juliets School of Possibilities, Off the Clock, I Know How She Does It, What the Most Successful People Do Before Breakfast, and 168 Hours. Her work has appeared in publications including The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Fast Company, and Fortune. She is the host of the Before Breakfast podcast and the co-host, with Sarah Hart-Unger, of the Best of Both Worlds podcast. Review Praise for Tranquility by Tuesday"Ive long loved Laura Vanderkams focus on achieving calm in the midst of our full and fast-moving lives, and this is an indispensable manual for doing just that. Tranquility by Tuesday offers plenty of inspiration for a more serene life – but also, no less importantly, down-to-earth and evidence-backed advice for actually making it happen." --Oliver Burkeman, New York Times bestselling author of Four Thousand Weeks "This book is truly great! Vanderkam offers well-researched ways to break away from the guilt and shame associated with doing something for yourself, as well as strategies for creating boundaries for this time. Vanderkam helps us prioritize our time for the ultimate goal— to be interested in our own lives." --Eve Rodsky, New York Times bestselling author of Fair Play and Find Your Unicorn Space "Laura Vanderkam never promises her readers a better life without also telling them exactly how to achieve it. This book is well researched and so helpful, especially because it comes from a personal place for her. She understands the frustration and exhaustion so many of us are feeling, and she has found a way to feel better. Not just while youre on vacation or over the weekend, but every day." --Celeste Headlee, author of Do Nothing, We Need to Talk, and Speaking of Race "This book is for anyone who just loves overscheduling their life...but doesnt love what it does to them. Laura Vanderkams nine brilliant time rules are the opposite of finger-wagging: generous, practical, revelatory, and deeply flexible to adapt to whatever *your* version of a burstingly-full life looks like right now. After reading Tranquility by Tuesday, I have finally found satisfaction in the chaos." --Lauren Smith Brody, author and founder of The Fifth Trimester "Tranquility is a gift: a research-backed, step-by-step guide to making time for what—and who—matters most. Vanderkam offers essential strategies for making the most of our days, no matter how busy we are, and finding meaning in our daily routines and relationships. This book will make you more thoughtful and intentional about how you spend your most precious resource—time." --Ximena Vengoechea, author of Listen Like You Mean It "Time is finite and options are infinite. This book dives into that tension, and comes up with exciting new personal patterns that are equally powerful at work and at home." --Aaron Dignan, author of Brave New Work"In a niche already overflowing with guidance, Laura Vanderkam stands out as one of the fields most astute writers. She continues to offer surprising and valuable insights about making the most of our precious and limited time. Ive greatly benefited from Lauras work over the years, and Im so excited to implement the simple and practical nine-point framework she presents in Tranquility by Tuesday." --Anne Bogel, author of Id Rather Be Reading and Dont Overthink It Review Quote Praise for Tranquility by Tuesday "Ive long loved Laura Vanderkams focus on achieving calm in the midst of our full and fast-moving lives, and this is an indispensable manual for doing just that. Tranquility by Tuesday offers plenty of inspiration for a more serene life - but also, no less importantly, down-to-earth and evidence-backed advice for actually making it happen." --Oliver Burkeman, New York Times bestselling author of Four Thousand Weeks "This book is truly great! Vanderkam offers well-researched ways to break away from the guilt and shame associated with doing something for yourself, as well as strategies for creating boundaries for this time. Vanderkam helps us prioritize our time for the ultimate goal-- to be interested in our own lives." --Eve Rodsky, New York Times bestselling author of Fair Play and Find Your Unicorn Space "Laura Vanderkam never promises her readers a better life without also telling them exactly how to achieve it. This book is well researched and so helpful, especially because it comes from a personal place for her. She understands the frustration and exhaustion so many of us are feeling, and she has found a way to feel better. Not just while youre on vacation or over the weekend, but every day." --Celeste Headlee, author of Do Nothing , We Need to Talk , and Speaking of Race "This book is for anyone who just loves overscheduling their life...but doesnt love what it does to them. Laura Vanderkams nine brilliant time rules are the opposite of finger-wagging: generous, practical, revelatory, and deeply flexible to adapt to whatever *your* version of a burstingly-full life looks like right now. After reading Tranquility by Tuesday , I have finally found satisfaction in the chaos." --Lauren Smith Brody, author and founder of The Fifth Trimester " Tranquility is a gift: a research-backed, step-by-step guide to making time for what--and who--matters most. Vanderkam offers essential strategies for making the most of our days, no matter how busy we are, and finding meaning in our daily routines and relationships. This book will make you more thoughtful and intentional about how you spend your most precious resource--time." --Ximena Vengoechea, author of Listen Like You Mean It "Time is finite and options are infinite. This book dives into that tension, and comes up with exciting new personal patterns that are equally powerful at work and at home." --Aaron Dignan, author of Brave New Work Excerpt from Book Rule 1: Give Yourself a Bedtime Going to bed earlier is how grown-ups sleep in. Somewhere, on the blurry edge of memory, I picture a scene. I am in my little brothers childhood room. He and I are creating elaborate plot lines for our Playmobil figures. By day, they run a school, a hotel, a tap dancing ensemble. Then fictional evening descends. We put the children to bed. The adults? We announce, with knowing smiles, that they are going to stay up all night. I laugh at this now, this idea that staying up all night would be a privilege of adulthood. Come actual adulthood, I feel like I spend much of my energy some days convincing the younger people in my house to go to bed so I can go to bed. There is always something else that has to happen. The toddler wants to be rocked again. Someone elses homework must go in the backpack. Someone has forgotten to tell me something very important, some story that takes meandering minutes to come to its conclusion. I love sleep. Id like to think sleep loves me back. But sleep and I have had to work hard to maintain our relationship during these years with babies and-my own particular middle-aged dilemma-early-rising little kids and night-owl teenagers. I have become an acute observer of sleeps quirks. Some fantastical dream suddenly introduces the plot twist of a crying child-and then, in a few minutes, the dream itself has disappeared and I am in my room with an actual sleepless kid. During the infant phases when I was waking and falling back asleep multiple times per day, I learned to recognize when, exactly, sleep was starting to visit. My mind would drift somewhere related to my life and then, as a familiar weight settled, I would see some scene that could not really be happening. I dreamed lucidly at times, particularly during the naps my poorly sleeping babies necessitated. I was aware, but thinking things I normally would not. I know the bleary resignation of facing down a day without enough sleep. I know the particular despair of doing it multiple nights in a row. And yet I have seen a curious paradox with this-one that affects a great many people during the busy years of raising a family and building a career, and that has important ramifications for how we can best manage our schedules. I track my time on weekly spreadsheets. All of my time. Since April of 2015, I have recorded how I have spent every half hour of my life. Theres no reason for anyone who doesnt study time professionally to do more than a few weeks of this, but the upside of my long-running data gathering is that I know exactly how much I sleep and when I sleep. My data set contains thousands of days. These recorded years include the babyhoods of my two youngest children, including all those middle-of-the-night wake-ups and miserably early weekend mornings. There have been rough stretches. Yet, one way or another, I hit my sleep set point: 7.3-7.4 hours/day averaged over any given eight weeks or so. Thats squarely in the range (seven to nine hours a day) that sleep literature suggests most adults need. The most rigorous time-diary studies have found that most people do get enough sleep from a quantitative perspective. The American Time Use Survey, which has thousands of people talk through how they spent the previous 4 a.m. to 4 a.m. day, usually covering all 365 days of the year, found that in 2020, the average person slept 9.01 hours in a twenty-four-hour period (up from 8.84 hours in 2019). In 2019, employed parents with kids under age six averaged 8.32 hours (8.26 for men; 8.39 for women). No one ever believes me when I mention this statistic, but my own time-diary studies of people with jobs and kids, which have had people record how they spent the previous day, hour by hour, have found averages that are fairly close to eight hours too. For instance, when I had women who held intense professional jobs, and who had children at home, track their time for a week for my book I Know How She Does It, I found that they averaged 7.7 hours of sleep per day. This raises the obvious question: Why, exactly, do we feel so tired? Because there is no doubt that many of us do. It is an important question, because sleep is foundational for all other good habits. Fatigue makes it harder to think strategically about the future, or to make good choices with time. Being adequately rested boosts performance on cognitively difficult tasks. We are less distracted. It is simply easier to be productive when youve gotten enough sleep. Ive studied thousands of time logs over the years in an attempt to reconcile how people can, when their time is tracked, seem to be sleeping enough, and yet still claim, in many polls, to sleep low amounts on a "typical" night, or to talk of sleep, as sociologist Arlie Hochschild once wrote, "the way a hungry person talks about food." I have come away convinced that the culprit is disorderly sleep . A reasonable average hides that people are often undershooting and then overshooting in a way that leads to fatigue on some days and an inability to maintain good routines on the others. This reality is obvious enough for people with babies, or those who do shift work, but is surprisingly widespread. For instance, in one of my time-diary studies, I found that 22 percent of people slept at least 90 minutes more, or less, on Tuesday than they did on Wednesday. That is a big gap. Asked about a typical night, someone might report sleeping from midnight to 6 a.m. A time log shows that this did, indeed, happen twice in the past week. But two other nights, this person crashed on the couch in front of the TV at 10 p.m., or fell asleep for an hour while putting a child to bed, or hit snooze three times on Thursday, with weekends looking completely different. The mental picture is six hours. The average might be 7.5, but each day is undershooting or overshooting in a way that wreaks havoc on someones ability to function. If people are always undershooting or overshooting, that would explain why the National Sleep Foundations annual Sleep in America poll found that, in 2020, people reported feeling sleepy, on average, three days per week. Overshot days dont feel particularly great either, when people sleep through their alarms, or however else their bodies force them to substitute sleep for other activities. Far better to hit the ideal each day. We cant always control when we sleep. But given how important sleep is for flourishing, when it is possible to steer clear of that drop-tower carnival ride of skimping and then catching up, life can feel more calm. Since most adults need to wake at set times for work or family responsibilities, the only variable that can move is the time we go to sleep the night before. In other words, despite what I fantasized about with my Playmobil characters, even adults need a bedtime. They need to go to bed on time, at a set time. And so that is Tranquility by Tuesday Rule 1: Give yourself a bedtime . If you would like to experience the additional energy and optimism that comes from being well rested, choose a time that you would like to go to sleep more nights than not. Then, commit to getting in bed by that time unless you have a compelling reason not to. How to put yourself to bed Figuring out and implementing a bedtime is a simple, four-step process. 1. Decide when you plan to wake up most weekdays Be honest. While it might be fun to fantasize about waking up at 4 a.m. to run ten miles and meditate for thirty minutes before making yourself a kale smoothie, if you have not done any of those things in the past week, you are not going to start now. What wake-up time makes the most sense for your life as it actually is? If you tend to be woken by your young children, track your time for a few weeks to establish a bell curve of when they are up for good. You can set a waking time at the point where most of the wake-ups occur after that. 2. Decide how much sleep you need Lets be honest here too. Most working-age adults need between seven and nine hours per day, with the majority of those landing between seven and eight. Few people need less than six and a half hours per day, aside from a handful of genetic short sleepers who sleep short hours on weekends and vacations too. If you arent sure, aim for seven and a half hours and see how it goes. If youre still crashing on weekends, you need more. If you wake up consistently before your alarm clock, you might need less. 3. Calculate what time you need to be in bed in order to get this amount of sleep This is a math problem. If you need to wake up at 6 a.m. on most weekday mornings, and you need seven and a half hours of sleep, then count back seven and a half hours. This gives you a 10:30 p.m. bedtime. If you need to wake up at 8 a.m., then you can go to bed at 12:30 a.m. Giving yourself a bedtime doesnt mean you have to go to bed at the same time you did when you were ten years old. If you are a night owl who doesnt have to be up before 10 a.m., feel free to choose a bedtime that reflects that. The important thing is to be consistent. If your life allows leeway on weekends, then you can shift by an hour or so, but any more will make Monday morning more painful than necessary. And if youve got young children who dont understand the concept of weekends, then youre best off sticking with the same b Details ISBN0593419006 Author Laura Vanderkam Short Title Tranquility by Tuesday Language English Year 2022 ISBN-10 0593419006 ISBN-13 9780593419007 Format Hardcover Publication Date 2022-10-11 Subtitle 9 Ways to Calm the Chaos and Make Time for What Matters Place of Publication New York Country of Publication United States US Release Date 2022-10-11 UK Release Date 2022-10-11 Narrator Nicola Bryant Birth 1927 Affiliation Clark University Position journalist Qualifications J.D. DEWEY 650.11 Audience General NZ Release Date 2022-11-28 AU Release Date 2022-11-28 Pages 288 Publisher Penguin Putnam Inc Imprint Portfolio We've got this At The Nile, if you're looking for it, we've got it. With fast shipping, low prices, friendly service and well over a million items - you're bound to find what you want, at a price you'll love! TheNile_Item_ID:138210629;

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